The Groom’s Speech…

The Groom’s speech is the most important speech at a wedding. He is speaking on behalf of his Bride, her family and indeed his own family. It is a speech that everyone is looking forward to and they are expecting a polished, ‘everything covered’ speech that makes them smile, ponder and appreciate him and his Bride for giving them such a wonderful day on this their wedding day. Many Groom’s do not know how to structure, write and deliver their speech. They fail to realize that this is probably there only opportunity to stand up to speak in public and thank everyone that means so much to them in their life. Consider the following when structuring / writing your speech:

  1. Address dignitaries i.e. , Rev. fathers, sisters, ladies and gentlemen and any special guests
  2. Say how happy you are and the thoughts going through your mind right now
  3. Talk about everything you love about your Bride and what makes her unique and special
  4. How you met her
  5. How you proposed
  6. Talk about your Bride’s family
  7. Talk about your own family
  8. Thank your family for welcoming your Bride into your family
  9. Thank the Bride’s family for welcoming you into their family
  10. Talk about your brothers and sisters
  11. Thank the Bridesmaids
  12. Thank the Groomsmen
  13. Thank the Ushers and any other people who helped in any way (if in audience)
  14. Thank Flowergirls and Pageboys (if applicable)
  15. Mention grandparents (if applicable)
  16. Thank priest and people who participated in the wedding ceremony in any way (if in audience)
  17. Thank the hotel, manager, wedding coordinator and staff
  18. Mention people who were invited, but cannot attend
  19. Mention people who are here in spirit (specifically mention close family relations and friends who have recently deceased)
  20. Thank person who made the cake (if in audience)
  21. Considering any other special / unique thank you’s
  22. Consider gift for mother’s and grandparents (if applicable)
  23. Mention co-workers (if applicable)
  24. Is anyone else celebrating a soecial ocassion in this month of your wedding
  25. Toast Bridesmaids
  26. End by mentioning your Bride again

As you write your speech, write it in a way that you would say it naturally. It is important that you are seen to be authentic i.e. be yourself. If appropriate, you can add in some humour through real-life stories about people in the audience or at the top table. Be careful not to go overboard and embarrass anyone. It is one of the main worries for the Mother of the Bride and indeed the Bride herself is what will her Groom (and indeed the Bestman) say in their speech, will they embarrass anyone or hurt anyone’s feelings?. Many wedding speeches have ruined a wedding day. We strongly suggest that everything you want to say is on paper in some form and we recommend to stick to the script. When it comes to delivering your speech, consider the following:

  • Do a practice run in the actual wedding venue
  • Stand up
  • Keep notes on the table, leaving one hand to hold the microphone and the other to gesture
  • Scan and look at everyone in the room, especially your Bride and people at the top table
  • Speak from the heart
  • Don’t forget to smile
  • Don’t forget to breadth

…and finally don’t forget to tell your Bride that ‘You love her‘…!