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When should we give the speeches at our wedding, before, during or after the meal? Let’s investigate the best option!

Before the meal

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Advantages:

  • All speakers can enjoy the meal
  • The speeches will be over and done with
  • They maybe shorter than normal
  • The Bestman will be have their speech out of the way
  • The Bride and the Mother of the Bride worries will be over

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Disadvantages:

  • The management of the hotel may have to pay staff, waitresses and waiters more money
  • The Chef and his kitchen staff will be under pressure to manage the food quality as they will not know the duration of the speeches
  • Wedding guests will be hungry and may not give the speeches the attention they deserve with empty stomachs
  • What will the guests do to allow their meal digest?
  • What ‘transitions’ from the meal to the post-reception celebrations?

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During the meal

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Advantages:

  • Can deliver one to two speeches between each meal course
  • Wedding guests will give more attention to the speeches as they will have been served food
  • Will add variety to the meal
  • As waitresses and waiters clear the table and guests are waiting for their next course to be served, a speech or two could be delivered
  • Some speakers will have their speech completed and can enjoy the rest of their meal

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Disadvantages:

  • The management of the hotel may have to pay staff, waitresses and waiters more money
  • The Chef and his kitchen staff will be under pressure to manage the food quality as they will not know the duration of each speech between meal courses
  • Will make for a longer meal duration
  • Speakers may not enjoy the complete meal as they wait to be called to speak
  • Guests may not be able to hear the speeches clearly as waitresses and waiters clear tables after each course and serve the next course

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After the meal

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Advantages:

  • It is the norm that any speeches that need to be delivered are delivered after a meal at any celebratory event
  • Wedding guests will be fully attentive to the speeches as they will have had their full meal
  • The hotel can better management their staff as when the meal has been completely served, most of the waitresses waiters can finish
  • The Chef and their staff can better manage the food as they will have a more accurate time when to serve the food and can plan accordingly
  • Better quality could possibly be delivered

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Disadvantages:

  • Speakers may not have enjoyed the meal as much as they should have in the knowledge that they have yet to deliver their speech
  • Nerves for the speakers have more time to develop
  • Wedding guests may want to leave immediately after the meal, but can’t as the speeches are an important part of the wedding occasion
  • Too many speeches at the one time if they are long speeches could become difficult to listen to
  • Wedding may be anxious to get to the bar…!

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Best option, probably After!

Whenever you decide to deliver your wedding speeches, prepare and deliver them well…it is a once-off, it will never happen again.

We all have people that we look up to for different parts of our lives, people that we see as role models, people that we would like to imitate, be just as good as or even have some of what they have. For a lot of us, we admire people who are great communicators, great auditors and great at getting across their message with power and authority. Who are the people that you look up to as great speakers, that you admire, that you would love to speak like? Well, below are my five people that I look up to as great speakers. Read more